Fast Forward Through Feedback

We engage in a process of personal development and growth in order to become more productive in life, to achieve our objectives, to operate with greater wisdom, to be more effective and fulfilled.

One of the great principles of personal development is learning how to Fastforward through Feedback! Successful people have learnt how to process feedback and fastforward their personal and professional success.

Guess what’s going to happen … Once you begin to be more proactive with your life and take positive steps to develop and achieve your objectives, you’ll start getting feedback about whether you’re doing the right thing or not. You’ll get all sorts of advice, help, suggestions, direc tion, and even criticism that will help you constantly adjust and move for ward while continually developing your knowledge, abilities, attitudes, and relationships.

‘Feedback is the breakfast of champions’ – KEN BLANCHARD AND SPENCER JOHNSONCo-authors of The One Minute Manager

Receiving feedback is really only the first part of the equa tion. Once you receive feedback, you have to decide what to do with it … you have to evaluate it honestly … you have to be willing to respond to it.

THERE ARE TWO KINDS OF FEEDBACK … you will encounter – negative and positive. We tend to prefer the positive – that is, good results, praise, a raise, a pro motion, satisfied customers, winning awards, increased happiness, inner peace, etc. It all feels better. It tells us that we are on course, that we are doing the right thing.

We tend not to like negative feedback – lack of results, little or no money, criticism, poor evaluations, being passed over for a raise or a promotion, com plaints, strained relationships, unhappiness, inner conflict, loneliness, etc. However,there is as much useful data in negative feedback as there is in positive feedback. It tells us that we are off course, headed in the wrong direction, doing the wrong thing. That is also valuable information.

In fact, it’s so valuable that one of the most powerful changes you could make is to change how you feel about negative feedback. Negative feedback is information about “improvement opportunities.” The world is telling you where and how you can improve.

Denis Waitley: “When you seek support and feedback, be sure it is from people who are truly interested in seeing you succeed …Get feedback from someone who is on your side but will still be objective and brutally honest with you.

Motives and fears run deep. Study them in others. The manager who supports you and comforts you when you’re down may like you best when you are in just that state: down and dependent. When you start succeeding beyond his expectations and comfort level, he may be among the first to get you to back off, limit your horizons and lower your goals. Recognize this feedback for the insecurity it is. It will rarely be objective or well-intentioned.

Even parents and significant family members aren’t immune to emotional conflicts that can pollute their feedback. Many relatives and siblings have difficulty accepting the success of others in the family or encouraging further success.

Ultimately, nobody is responsible for your life but you. Nobody is accountable for your actions but you. Therefore, nobody’s expectations for you and opinions about you are as important as your own. So make sure your opinions take precedence in your mind over all others, and when you do need to consult with someone else, think very carefully before you choose exactly who.”

Fastforward through feedback …

1. Give the feedback honest evaluation.

2. Make a realistic response to the feedback.

3. Analyse the feedback from different points of view.

4. Assess the accuracy of the feedback.

5. Make strategic changes where the feedback establishes the need for that.

…. then, move on!

Don’t stay camped around negative feedback, ‘navel gazing’.

Until next time …

Kevin

About the Author

Julia Mitchell is an online professional networker and a coach. Julia coaches and mentors like minded people to succeed in their chosen field and invites you to join with her.

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